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Fine Your Tribe


“With billions of people in the world, someone should figure out a system where no one is lonely.” – Suzy Becker, The All Better Book


This is my tribe. I belong to a couple but this one is, without a doubt, one of the most successful communities in which I’ve had the honor to belong.


I’m a member of this clan because we share some important values. We don’t, however, share all the same values. I didn’t find my tribe at church—the best I can tell we’re a mix of Protestants, Catholics, Jews, maybe a Muslim and probably a couple of Agnostics. I didn’t meet them at a political rally—I have no earthly idea how any one of these women voted, nor did I meet them at work. Some of us are retired, several still head off to jobs, some worked their fannies off raising amazing human beings while supporting their husbands’ careers, a few are in college, and one is still in high school! We range in age from 18 to 84.


I wasn’t looking for a friend group the day I walked into Sally Crawford’s dance fitness class at the Moody Family YMCA. I was just hoping to improve my aerobic capacity and have some fun. Little did I know that morning that I was walking into a community—or that I needed one.


Multiple studies point to loneliness as a key driver of the emotional, mental and physical health crisis in this country. Having a meaningful connection to another human being outside our household is the first step to overcoming social isolation. But investing ourself in “doing life” with others is how we enjoy living abundantly.


In his book, “Everybody’s Normal Till You Get To Know Them”, John Ortberg writes, “Community is what you were created for. It is God’s desire for your life. It is the one indispensable condition for human flourishing.”


Human FLOURISHING! Can you imagine a society built on such a promise? I can.

The snake of scarcity feeds on loneliness. To live abundantly, look for a community that encourages growth, laughs in the face of our mutual vulnerabilities and supports one another with selfless abandon.


To flourish, find your tribe. (Or, come join ours. Everyone is welcome—even those who can’t dance a lick.)

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